For women who are trying sex for the first time, it can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. It's important to approach this experience with caution and care. In this post, we will offer some tips to help women navigate their first sexual experience and make it as enjoyable and comfortable as possible.

1. Make sure you’re clean

Yes, totally—this is totally legit advice. Do you know that bacteria can easily reach the female sex organ because our urethra is so short?

Unlike men, we don’t rely on a penis, so bacteria can easily travel and wreak havoc if we are not careful.

CCCH Clinic emphasizes the crucial importance of cleanliness, particularly considering the various cycles women experience, including menstruation. Maintaining proper hygiene significantly reduces the risk of developing infections in the genital area, thereby helping to prevent more serious issues like infertility. Furthermore, practicing good hygiene also plays a vital role in lowering the chances of contracting sexually-transmitted diseases.

With that said, it is important that you clean yourself before having sex—whether for the first time ever or for the times after. This is basic hygiene that movies and porn do not teach you.

Being clean during sex also increases confidence and subsequently, pleasure. Sure, it’s hot to do things fast like in movies because it looks sexy that way. But if it’s your first time, slow, and safe, is the better way to go.

You want to really absorb everything that is going on around you and enjoy your moment without worrying about the risks of infection later on.

2. Be with the right person

Not enough people talk about this. It is so important to have sex with the right person. How do you decide on that?

Someone who is nice to you, respects your boundary, is polite and genuine with you; and most of all… if you feel it in your heart, you will know. You are not marrying the person, so you don't need to be THAT serious.

But at the same time, this experience will be with you for the rest of your life once you have done it. So, at least, you have got to make sure that this is a person you will not regret later.

Of course, we don't know what your relationship is going to look like down the road—nobody knows the future—so just go with your gut feeling. If it feels right in the present moment, you can trust that gut feeling.

3. Foreplay is crucial!

Women who are trying sex just for the first time may not have developed the senses to respond quickly to sexual stimulation.

Even if your mind is totally willing and you are SO anxiously ready, your body may not follow through as quickly.

According to WebMD, foreplay serves to enhance sexual arousal and, particularly for women, it aids in preparing the body for intercourse. Foreplay plays a crucial role both physically and emotionally, priming both the mind and body for sex. Diving straight into penetrative sex without any preceding activities can potentially result in an experience that is dull, discomforting, or even painful.

Now if your body has not produced enough lubrication because it's responding slowly, penile penetration can be really painful. That, my friend, you don't want.

There's no forcing it. Your vagina walls are so sensitive and you must treat them with respect! With that said, foreplay is crucial to get you really wet before penetration. 20 minutes is a minimum!

Science has proven it. And aside from kissing and touching, you can also have your partner insert their fingers into your vagina to stimulate you better.

Fingers are significantly smaller than a penis so you will feel more comfortable this way. Only allow penetration when you're totally wet.

4. Be in the present moment

For the first time, you may have a lot of worries in your mind. What if you are not doing good enough? What if you embarrass yourself?

Such thoughts may form in your head and this might cause you to be ungrounded in reality. Sex is all about enjoying the present moment, being fully absorbed in the experience, and getting the highest satisfaction.

If your mind is too busy with others things as well as worry, your body can also become numb to your partner's sexual stimulation. With that said, it is best to have your first sex when you are free and calm.

Let the excitement of this new experience take over you, but not the worries and fear. If your heart tends to race, try to breathe deeply for a couple of minutes.

Breathing calmly and deeply should help calm your nerves down.

As stated in an article on the SheOrgasms website, being fully present during sexual experiences enables you to fully embrace sensations and pleasure. This heightened presence can strengthen intimacy with your partner, fostering a deeper connection between you. Moreover, it allows you to cultivate a stronger relationship with your own body and spirit, potentially enhancing intuition and self-awareness.

5. Relax, you can do better next time

So, the first time you have sex, things may not turn out as smoothly as you have always dreamed they would be.

Life is all about experience and learning from mishaps, so it is no use being so hard on yourself when you feel like you have not performed well enough.

We all want to pleasure and satisfy our sexual partners at all times, but if it is only your first time, there is always room for improvement. You can always do better next time.

With that said, you can't expect yourself to know all the right things (and moves) to do just because you have read plenty of erotica or watched enough porn. Real life is much different from fiction.

Plus, you need to know porn actors don't even have sex like that in real life. You can’t (and shouldn’t) learn about real human sex from porn.

Finally, trying sex for the first time is never easy for women, and it can be scary and difficult for them. By implementing these tips, any woman can overcome the fear and do sexual activities just fine.

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Low Female Libido: Causes And Combating Measures

Libido can be understood as the desire for having sex with your partner. Nowadays degradation in sexual desire has been observed in many people including men and women. But according to the recent studies and trend, loss of libido is more common in women in comparison to men. Everyone will agree with the fact that a good sexual relationship is one of the most important criteria for the success of a relationship between married couples. In fact, according to a recent survey, hypoactive sexual desire disorder or more commonly known as the low female libido is the most common sexual problem that is being faced by the women of age group 18-55.

Causes of hypoactive sexual desire disorder

This disorder can occur due to various reasons and may differ from women to women. Health and lifestyle changes are the key players in the culmination of low female libido. However, the causes can be broadly classified into two categories namely:

Physical Factors: Surgery, fatigue, diseases, prolonged medication, diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary heart problems are some of the main physical reasons behind the loss in libido in women.

Psychological Factors: The important psychological factors working behind low female libido are a history of abuse, body image, stress depression high anxiety, etc.

Hormonal imbalances caused due to menopause, pregnancy, and breastfeeding can also lead to a reduction in sexual desire. Another important factor on which the sexual desire greatly depends is the communication between the partners. If there is a lack of communication between partners then it will definitely result in a lack of interest. In fact, the lack of communication is the most prominent reason behind most of the conflicts, fights, and confusion that occur between couples.

Combating hypoactive sexual desire disorder

The problem of low female libido can be cured effectively. By following a few simple steps you can easily improve your sexual desire.

• The first and foremost requirement for healthy sex life is good communication. No matter what happens, never hesitate to share your problems with your partner. This will help in increasing the affection and strengthening the bond between you and your partner thus increasing your sexual desire.
• Stress is one of the major factors behind low female libido and this can easily be reduced by following a healthy lifestyle and practicing exercise regularly. Reducing the risk factors of diseases, elevating mood, toning your muscles and increasing your stamina, all this can be achieved the aerobic and yoga exercises.
• You can also seek the help of a therapist who can make you learn different ways of achieving pleasure and increasing your desire. Estrogen therapy has grown very popular these days and many therapists recommend this to their patients facing the problem of low sexual desire. The estrogen therapy awakes your sexual response by the help of pills, creams, patches, gels, etc.

If not treated properly then low female libido can lead to some serious consequences even at the personal front. This consistent lack of interest in sex adversely affects your marital life and even can lead to the breaking of the bond with your partner.